Relationship Coaching is a professional client-focused service which assumes that individuals and couples are healthy, powerful, and able to achieve their relationship goals with effective support, information, and guidance.
The key to a successful life partnership is to work together to become clear about what you each want. You can then make effective choices so that you both actually get what you want. Once you are working together effectively, the choices and opportunities necessary for success will easily present themselves.
In a relationship, there are solvable problems and unsolvable problems. Problems can remain unsolved for years when the skills and information needed to communicate effectively are not present, resulting in unhappiness and resentment. Unsolved and unsolvable problems result in failed relationships and can be prevented or overcome with Relationship Coaching.
Relationship coaching isn’t just for couples. It could be a family relationship that needs improving (improving relationships with parents, children, siblings)
It is not always necessary to work with both partners in a relationship. Coaching helps clients let go of their own painful thoughts and create their own relationship vision. This means clients are able to enjoy a satisfying relationship even without their partner’s participation in the coaching process.
I also work with clients who are not in a relationship or have recently left a relationship. I work with single clients who have a history of troubled relationships, who have difficulty knowing what they want in a relationship or just want to stay on track with their plan to find a deeper connection with someone.
Relationship coaches, just like life coaches, take healthy people and make them things better. A relationship coach can help you quickly uncover the essence of what you want out of a partnership, guide you around painful issues, and create a safe cocoon as you face your fears and discover your true desires.
Is Relationship Coaching the Same as “Couples Therapy?”
Relationship coaching is not “couples therapy,” just as life coaching is not psychotherapy. If therapists are surgeons, coaches are personal trainers.
If you’re having relationship troubles, a coach might help you clear up your thinking, get some perspective or set inspiring new goals. However, in the case of problems with debilitating mental illness, couples therapy would be recommended.
Likewise, if there are many unhealed childhood wounds, a coach will likely refer you to a therapist who specializes in working with past trauma.
Unlike therapy, relationship coaching rarely requires you to re-tell your childhood story, but it can help you find peace with where you are now.
Can a Relationship Coach Save my Marriage?
Relationship coaching might help untangle love knots, but it doesn’t purport to “save” marriages. Coaching clarifies relationship issues – separating what we can control with what we cannot. It brings the bright light of awareness into the hidden corners of resentment, fear and avoidance.
Even if only one spouse decides to hire a coach, when he or she lets go of mental suffering, the burden on the marriage could also be lightened.
Marriages often benefit from coaching, but each marriage has its’ own unique set of difficulties, so it is impossible to say whether or not a marriage will grow stronger through the process of coaching.
Coaching activities may include:
- Create a vision for your relationship – Achieving clarity about each other’s expectations, vision, goals and values
- Learn how to communicate in a constructive way that allows for feelings/thoughts to be shared, heard and understood by each of you.
- Developing a deeper understanding of your partners’ actions, behaviours and their intentions.
- Addressing emotional and compatibility issues
- Review your relationship timeline to discover any certain repetitive cycles or ups and downs.
- Develop and work on nine (9) key areas of your relationship: communication, romance, fun, practical life, intimacy*, physical affection, finances and spirituality
- Compile a “trust inventory,” a list of things you feel you need help rebuild trust if that has been or is currently being affected.
- Getting a reality check; each partner being accountable to their identified requirements and needs
Why Use A Relationship Coach?
There are a lot of reasons people use a relationship coach ~ here are just a few…
- You are serious about having a successful life partnership.
- Working with a coach can move you farther and faster than you can move on your own.
- You don’t know what you don’t know, and your success may depend upon access to new information about yourself and relationships.
- Using a coach can be the most effective means of translating knowledge into practice. One of the most indispensable roles of a coach is to help you use what you already know to make effective choices and take the actions necessary to be successful.
- You deserve to get what you want. You do not want to settle for less or risk failure, and you are willing to gift yourself with the support and technology needed to ensure success.
Relationship coaching helps you see how your behaviours can positively or negatively impact others – whether at home, work or with your wider family. Improving relationships can help in so many ways including reducing stress, anxiety and depression.
I know you’re interested, because you’ve read all the way to here! You can book in for a free consultation and find out more. Call or email now to get booked in.